Friendly one minute ignores me the next
When People Don't Seem Interested In Starting Friendships With You
- Chris MacLeod, MSW
One issue I've consistently seen people ask for help with is when others don't seem interested in starting friendships with them. Some statements I've heard about the problem are:
- "People just don't seem interested in me."
- "I take an interest in people, but get nothing back in return."
- "No one ever invites me anywhere."
- "People will talk to me if I run into them somewhere, but it never goes beyond that."
A closely related problem is when someone is part of a social group, either one they've been in a while or which they've recently joined, and feel like their friends are indifferent to them or tend to ignore them. I go into that issue here:
When You Feel Like Your Social Circle Is Indifferent To You
The topic of why people may generally not want to start friendships with someone is tricky. So much information is left out and everyone's situation is different. What's the person like? What are the other people like? What are the circumstances in which they're trying to make friends? When I'm asked this question by email I often think, "I bet that if I could just see how you act in
What Does It Mean When A Man Ignores You?
What does it mean when a guy ignores you?
If a guy ignores you, it can have various meanings depending on the context and the nature of your association with him. Here are some of the most common reasons why a guy might be ignoring you:
- Busy or Preoccupied: He could be genuinely busy with work, personal matters, or other responsibilities, and his lack of communication might not be intentional. In this case, he may get back to you when he has the time and space to do so.
- Needing Space: Sometimes, people need some alone time to process their thoughts or emotions. If he is ignoring you, it could be an indication that he needs some space or time for himself.
- Lack of Interest: Unfortunately, one of the possibilities is that he may have lost interest or is no longer interested in continuing the relationship or friendship.
- Misunderstanding or Miscommunication: There could be a misunderstanding or miscommunication that is causing him to be distant. It's possible that he might not be intentionally ignoring you but is unclear about how to communicate his feelings or thoughts.
- Avoiding Conflict: In some cases, people may select to ign
Staying Friends When You Wanted More
By MK Miller“Don’t wait for your feelings to change to take action. Take action and your feelings will change.” ~Barbara Baron
Paul and I had been acquaintances for eight years. When I opened the door to his office one afternoon to offer our usual casual hello, an alchemical change packed a walloping charge through my body.
When had my coworker become a handsome man with whom I suddenly wanted to share more than impersonal cafeteria trays in a crowd?
I’m not sure what flipped the switch for me, but I’d already cheered him when he ran two marathons, listened when his wife left and they divorced, and written while he lived abroad twice serving a medical charity.
We’ve raised money for causes and exchanged myriad e-mails about jobs, travels, and our families—my sister’s marriage, his siblings’ children being born.
While my sudden unspoken desire was to deepen our intimacy, Paul’s signals proved alternately encouraging then confusing.
A promised lunch together that fell through due to sickness; a lingering smile at my door one day turned into distracted “gotta run, department meeting” the next.
Just as I beg
What to Read Next
Today I’d like to talk about why your ex is ignoring you when they agreed to be friends.
In all, I believe there are 11 core reasons that we should look at,
- They think “being friends” is what you are supposed to say during a breakup
- They don’t have the courage to tell you they don’t want to be friends
- They are in a relationship with someone new
- The sphere of influence factor
- It’s their way of asserting control
- They are getting conflicting advice
- The fear of emotional relapse
- Social media overload
- Unexpressed resentment
- Avoiding drama
- Communication breakdown
Let’s just jump into it.
They Think That’s What You Are Supposed To Say
Think back to the end of your relationship.
There was likely an indication that made you feel your ex wanted to remain friends. However, have you considered that they may have said this simply to maintain the status quo?
They might believe that suggesting friendship is the socially acceptable or polite thing to do.
This situation can be compared to when someone asks, “How are you?”, and you reply with a generic, “I’m fine” or “I&#
Why Would Someone Keep You Close and Ignore You?
It's kind of similar to people who take their own lives too. From an external point of view, you might think he/she has gone insane for taking his or her own life and that its a sign of being a coward to face the real problems and their fears. You might be thinking what could be the reason of a sudden death and turn of events. He/she died without a reason or signs or notice that it would soon happen is usually a statement one would make who failed to notice and realize the reasons beforehand when the signs were pretty much obvious. We just often turn them into blind eye thinking they don't have the capacity to do such thing and they aren't hell serious about it. But to tell you honestly, they can and they will if no one will stop them.
There must be some warning signs and changes in their behavior, that they are already planning to do the act.
For example, giving away one of their most valuable item, one they'd always treasure and would not let anyone touch or borrow but for some reason they are ready to give it away.
Farewell cryptic messages. They'll tell you things you must be doing in life to be successful. Reminders and